(July 26, 2020) Is self-doubt and fear holding you back?

personal chef Jul 26, 2020

Fear and self-doubt are unquestionably the two most common roadblocks to success in life including what holds many back from starting their personal chef business.

When coming face to face with fear and self-doubt, you could choose to either:

  • Be held hostage to your current life just because it's comfortable; OR
  • Courageously face your fears, take risks, and live life to its fullest

Everyone experiences fear and self-doubt to a  different degree. 

  • An inability to realistically assess your competence and skills, "What if I put out the word about my new business and nobody is interested?"
  • Attributing your success to external factors, "I only got this far because my friend gave me my last job."
  • Berating your performance, "They were just being polite when they said they liked my chicken dish."
  • Fear that you won't live up to expectations, "What if I start my personal chef business and my clients don't like the food that I make them?"
  • Sabotaging your own success, "I'm not even going to try marketing myself because nobody in this town is going to be interested in paying for my services."
  • Setting very challenging goals and feeling disappointed when you fall short

Daily, I'll open my inbox and there's an email with statements like these. What are they looking for? I suppose they want me to guarantee they're going to be successful in their business, but really...only you can guarantee your success.

You are the one who needs to face your fears and take risks. An outside source is not going to help your self-doubt within. You wouldn't have gotten this far in life if you weren't amazing at what you do. 

Understand that entering a new career may trigger self-doubt and fear because it's taking a risk and risks are scary. Realize that even the most celebrated world-renowned chef had a first day in business. He/she faced his anxiety and fear of a new beginning and went for it. Now look at him/her.

Stop being crippled by your fears. Instead, lean into the feeling. Share it with others so they can see the real you. Visualize your success. Don't allow self-doubt and a sense of an "inner fraud" override feelings of success or competence.

Awareness is the first step to change. Instead of telling yourself they're going to find out you're a fraud or that you don’t deserve success, remind yourself that it’s normal not to know everything and that you'll find out more as you progress in your business. 

Be kind to yourself. Remember that you are entitled to make mistakes and forgive yourself. It's all a learning process and nobody is expecting you to come at it with perfection.

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It's wonderful to see perspectives on how others run their personal chef business. If you'd like to share your personal chef journey, I'd be honored to have you as the next guest post. [email protected]

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